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life

A View from Fifty

I said to one of my visiting friends the morning after my 50th birthday party, as I was carrying out some recycling: “after 50, chop wood and carry water.”  It’s a take off on the Zen saying: Before enlightenment, chop wood and carry water; After enlightenment, chop wood and carry water. I then added, “and […]

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growth

Shaving My Beard and the Struggle for Autonomy

I shaved my beard the other day and I went through a much stronger response than I had anticipated. Lidia had wanted to see me without a beard and I hesitated for a day or two, but then decided to shave it off, albeit temporarily. When I did, though, I actually felt emasculated. It was […]